You definitely owe it to yourself to date somebody nice. I have heard from both men and women that they are attracted to "bad boys," which is something I have never understood. But to each his own.

As long as you know you are an Enneagram 3, you realize how important it is to put up a good appearance because of the way you will look to others. Turn that around a bit. Perhaps you could think less about how you appear to others and more about how your potential date looks to you.

Wishing you all the best, and hoping that you find a truly nice guy.